guestgue wrote:It's about more than this post, actually-that was just one example of today's double standard. I'm not meaning to target Diorette, but the fact is what she was saying WAS slut-shaming. The thing is, women really need to STOP downgrading each other; men do it enough (It's the EXACT reason why men can get away with calling a girl a slut, but when his 'bro' sleeps with 3 girls he's 'the man'- because they don't shame one another)
So yes, I was serious. I'm in a monogamous relationship and have only ever had sex with him, but only becuase that's my preference. I have a girlfriend who has had a good number of sexual partners. Am I better than her? Absolutely not. Is she a whore because she enjoys sex, but until recently hadn't found a guy she was willing to settle down with for an emotional connection as well as physical? Hell no.
This topic has LONG passed being about giving advice to the OP, as she has long since abandoned the thread. Instead it truly became a slut-shaming extravaganza.
3 guys in one night might be a reach, but honestly-it's still no one else's business.
I never said anything about calling anyone a slut. Yes the double standard with men and women is stupid. But in American society sleeping with several people is considered promiscuous behavior to most people. No matter what gender (even though men get away with it) That's just how it is. I"m not saying I agree with it. But it's true.
And since when does "it's nobody's business" stop anyone?? Soooo many things in this world are no one's business, but people always try to intervene. Whether it be politics, sexual orientations, religions. Even their style and fashion, which is on this board. So saying it's no one's business means nothing. Because unfortunately, everyone will have their own personal opinions about everyone and everything. And they are entitled to those opinions.