almond_milk wrote:I can’t believe so many people are liking that comment, agreeing that I’m just being a dick for saying comparison is wrong. I’m inclined to believe that anyone who thinks it’s ok to compare Rosie to the one baby you know or a list of milestones on Google must not have children. When my premature son was 5 pounds at 3 weeks old no one said “my nephew was 10 pounds at that age & yours is barely five pounds & you’re acting like he’s normal.” Yeah, maybe when the doctors wouldn’t listen to my concerns of having preeclampsia symptoms I should’ve gotten a second opinion at a different practice instead of trusting them, but hindsight is 20/20 & that doesn’t make it okay to compare him to another child.
Now, I know that’s not the same because Acacia could be doing so much more for Rosie, & she knows what she could be doing to help her while I didn’t know I had preeclampsia. & yes, it’s fucked up that Rosie’s not in PT. We get it, she’s extremely behind on her milestones & her parents just stick her in a Bumbo seat & act like everything’s okay & force her to “sit” & “crawl” when she clearly can’t. But there’s no proof that she would be able to sit up if she was in PT, yet everyone seems to be armchair diagnosing her. Let’s open our minds, look past our dislike for Acacia, & think about how we would be treating a baby that wasn’t hers. Would we still be ok with comparing Rosie to a random 7 month old? Doubt it.
I wasn’t calling you a dick because for saying comparison is wrong. I called you a dick because your comment came off extremely aggressive when it was quite obvious the original post wasn’t meant to come off the way you took it.