Long Post: Sorry in advance for length.
https://integrativepsych.co/new-blog/an ... ong-island
(10 Silent Signs of Emotional Neglect - These are common adult symptoms of childhood emotional neglect:)
This pretty much sums up Jake Paul. I know people get aggravated from me defending Jake Paul and Logan so much...but I relate to their homelife. (Their childhood upbringing) It's easy to say "get over it" when you've never dealt with such a living situation but..when you grow up in an environment that is intrinsically hostile...it feels normal because you don't know anything else and that kind of "normal" means you're accustomed to living in hostile environments and unconsciously seek them out (recreate it). Why? It's the mindset that you know that bad stuff inevitably happens so you feel uncomfortable with anything being 100% ok for you (because you don't trust it'll last or feel you don't deserve a consistent level of calmness) You also don't know how to make negative feelings go away.
It isn't just the Paul Bros running a business or having problems with being alone (It's both of those things)
But also...they've recreated the environment they both grew up in by modeling their businesses after it.
I've spent a year investigating and digging through their vlogs.
I started commenting here in late 2018 and revised my viewpoints along the way with every Docu-series, podcast, interview.
My thoughts as of November 2019 (Greg, Pam, Logan and Jake)
Jake and Logan both suffer from the long-term effects of childhood emotional neglect and physical abuse.
The signs are all there from Jake/Logan's behavior, what they say about their parents and what their parents say about one another.
Then there is Jake's poor choice of partners, their player mentality, the fact they don't notice the sycophants living in their house. (Hangers-on)
Pam - Passive-Aggressive/Narcisstic: She knew Greg had anger/alcohol problems but instead of removing her sons from his house for their own safety, she left them there on alternating weeks and still tries to prove she's "better" than Greg by being the nice parent. This is the emotionally-controlling parent. A parent who leaves their kid/s in harms way is just as bad as the one exhibiting outwardly bad behavior. From the kids perspectie: She looks like the better parent because she's "nicer than Greg"
Greg: Has anger issues (possible undiagnosed PTSD) and a problem with alcohol: He has no filter, is kinda abrasive when discussing situations. He's basically unapologetically honest and doesn't spare people's feelings. This is the physically-controlling parent.
Jake and Logan both display (as adults) a combination of narcisstic and people-pleasing tendencies as well as commitment issues. (Neither brother is a full NPD)
Both brothers have an intense fear of failure. It's as if failing literally makes them feel terrible
Jake has poor coping skills for his emotions but is making progress going forward - As illustrated in his reaction video (in the car) to the boxing match...how he ADMITTED he was brought up not being allowed to cry but understanding now that recognizing your own emotions is healthy/natural. He's slowly learning not ot be so critical of himself but still has a hard time with his own inner-voice.
Basically Pam is addicted to Greg and Greg is addicted to the sons.
Pam tries to one-up Greg and Greg lives vicariously through Jake and Logan.
After nearly 20years there is still this unspoken animosity between them.