Samantha mama-ria / Samantha Maria Part 14

[Brigante]

Buying 'bits and bobs' today so all smiles.

[David2re12]

Did she really say that having a damn baby sling enforces gender roles? God I used to love Sam but she is so fucking dense it does my head in. That's like saying a stroller enforces gender roles, or damn having a CAR enforces gender roles. I swear every "feminist" beauty guru YTer wants to just talk out of their ass about the most asinine things. It's just a method of transportation for your kid, and just because you don't venture outside of your house enough to see men wear them (because in the states where I am it's actually quite common to see), doesn't mean it's "enforcing gender roles".

God I really wish she would keep her weird as version of feminism to herself because next thing you know she'll be saying "wearing an apron when you cook enforces gender roles and stereotypes" when in reality people don't want to fuck up their clothes while cooking.

I could be wrong but I think she said Baby Born, not Baby Bjorn. The Baby Born is that toy baby that you feed and stuff and it pees and poops.

Hmm I see. That makes sense. Sometimes I really can't tell with her mumbling but regardless a TOY does not enforce gender roles because it's just a toy. The marketing + parental input I agree with her can absolutely enforce gender roles, but it stops there imo. I guess I just wish that Sam would give it a break with the feminism and gender roles shit when she can't even call out her own husband on his problematic af behavior.

This is because she says that she is a feminist, just to be with the in crowd. Then she goes and talks shit about other women, for doing the exact same thing that she does. She is just pretending to be woke.

[3eyedraven17]

Did anyone see the picture sams mum posted of her and sam as a baby? It tugged on my heartstrings actually! She looks uncanny to indie! Man - I really hope sam evolves as a mum or grows into it. She obviously feels so much love from her own mum and in a way I suppose never felt connected to her dad for leaving at a young age or whatever - my point is, kids can always tell when they aren't truly loved. It can't be faked and as much as I have unfortunately grown to dislike sam I really want the best for her parental wise

[PocketPLocket]

Not too worried about her not rushing to Indie when she fell over in the box. Little kids take tumbles all the time, and you can't run and make a fuss out of them every time or they'll get more upset. Once you see they're okay you just gotta keep them engaged and they'll be up again in no time. The camera cut after she fell so we don't know what happened next. Also, I doubt she was put in the box against her will, maybe she was interested in it so Sammi put her in, from my experience (I don't have kids but there is an 11 year age gap between me and my little sister) babies are always far more interested in boxes and things around the house than what toys you give them!

What I do have issue with is that she always has the TV on some brainless cartoon, but then is listening to the radio or a podcast or something. That kind of noise drives me nuts. Indie is always just plonked in front of the TV to try and keep her occupied and that baby seems BORED! Do they go to any baby classes? Because it's so crucial for Indie to socialise with other babies now, it might just look like babbling but it's important stimulation. If Sam doesn't want Indie to grow up with the same social anxieties and shyness that she has, she needs to make an effort.

[-Tara-]

I highly doubt that she put the baby in the box to vlog! Kids love playing with household items.
I'm the type of mom who is too careful with her kids. Always trying to prevent a fall or whatever but even to me, she looked just fine in that box. It was a tumble and she wasn't hurt. If you make a big deal every time your baby falls they'll learn to be too scared to try anything.

The tv in the background though is another story.. indie is way too little for tv. She's too young to understand the shows and it discourages her from trying to communicate with ppl around her and to play with her toys (both of which are important parts of development).

[EffyStonem]

Few things to say. Haven't watched any of the vlogs because they'll irritate me to no end but do keep up here. First, I'm not a baby person whatsoever, and I know not everyone is either, but indie is so cute to me, she's chubby with big eyes and curly hair.. like a little cherub lol! I get if babies aren't your thing at all either but to call one ugly and go in on it is...... strange.... like really fucking strange. I also don't see how any of you say she resembles Jason?? I don't see that at all! From their colouring to the shapes of their faces (what hers seems like so far) she slightly resembles sam (if that) anyways, what a dumb thing to think sam would love her more if she was cuter, as I've stated before, sam probably dislikes that she's as cute as she is. Considering she has all the traits sam so badly admires. I think (as someone who's struggled w mental illness) being home all day with the same person, not having much friends, not keeping stimulated with school or REAL work, can really spike your levels in a negative way. I think because Sam does shit all all day and is holed up in her house with Jason (other than to get coffee) she freaks out and it gets taken out on indie. That and probably how she lost her figure, hated the pregnancy, etc are things that she adds ontop of resenting indie for. That's probably why she wants a nanny, because she probably knows she's going to hate her kid to no end if she doesn't get a "break" from her. You can tell she truly sees the worst in indie and channels her anger/sadness towards her by constantly stating how disruptive and whiny and so mentally draining indie is but really all babies are like that. Indie actually seems like a pretty well bahaved baby to me. It's so weird seeing someone have such a strained relationship with their child at that age already. As someone said before it's like a cousin meeting her cousins new baby and being kind of awkward/uncomfortable or whatever towards it. Imagine when indie grows and sam tells her how she was "such a bad baby" and exaggerating perfectly normal infant behaviour

[tadahhhhh]

I think her vlogs only confirm what we've all been thinking anyway. Sami's only happy when she's having "me time" away from Indie, where she can shop and not have to think about a baby that needs her. I don't even feel sorry for her at this stage because she's brought it all on herself. She's incredibly stupid and naive. She CHOSE to have a baby, she CHOSE to marry a douchebag who does nothing all day. She seems honestly surprised that having a baby is hard work. But Indie doesn't even really seem that "difficult". She's just a regular kid. She's so cute when she smiles and giggles. But Sami can't see that. She never really wanted Indie and now she's stuck with her 24/7 because her douchebag husband is out doing god knows what. Why exactly is he so busy? He's "training"???? And what does even need an office for??? He doesn't do any work!!!

Sami was bummed out because the childcare situation fell through, but i'm sure she'll find someone else to pass her baby onto. You can tell she's desperate to get away from Indie. It's so sad. Sami fills her life with empty, bullshit consumerism and then wonders why she feels so depressed all the time. She needs to get out of the house and meet people. Forget shopping, she needs actual human relationships. I'm amazed she hasn't joined a baby and mum group yet. There are so many things going on in her local community she could easily get involved with if she wanted. But no, it's easier to sit and mope and complain all day and buy more useless crap to make herself feel better. She's an idiot.

[Evil_robot]

agree with everyone who says that she brought it on herself. really, she's not a teen, although I do admit I have met teens much smater than Sam and Gnome, and she lives kinda with an 'easy' mindset when she just goes with the flow and doesn't really plan anything or tries to be pragmatic.
it's not anybody's fault, especially not Indie's, that Sam makes poor choices and is stupid and that she chose a stupid lazy husband for herself.
if there is anybody you should be mad at, Sam, it should be you, first of all, for being that stupid and careless and bringing Gnome home!
don't pour all your anger on your small daughter, it's not her fault.

[AngreeLee]

For those who constantly say that Jason is not helping - you are wrong. She has time to shop, to go to beauty salons, she has time to do her hair and makeup, she had time to organize the wedding and go to gym on regular basics, she has time to cook.... As she says they have no caregiver someone should stay with Indie all this time and I assume it's Jason, and believe me as it seems like it's not a lot it's more that most fathers spend with their babies helping wives. Yes, may be working fathers, but I bet he at least trying to do smth to bring money to home. I'm not saying that he devotes all his time to Indie and is not lazy, but he deffinitely spends more time than you think with her. It's Sam who can not understand that with baby all these endless shopping trips and hours spent on picking a new fancy bag you have nowhere to go are useless and she has to accept changes in her life.

[emee80]

Wow hope Sam never reads her it would destroy her! She hits the nail on the head on her own Im Strugging Vlog - she looks so sad, speaks about needing to work, do vlogs and "so much of youtube is so happy happy...and like hey guys!!!"

SO it - if you are not happy - don't vlog, pure and simple. Do work for Novem and Knight etc, less videos. Living up to high expectations will make anyone down!

[BrideOfFrankenstein]

For those who constantly say that Jason is not helping - you are wrong. She has time to shop, to go to beauty salons, she has time to do her hair and makeup, she had time to organize the wedding and go to gym on regular basics, she has time to cook.... As she says they have no caregiver someone should stay with Indie all this time and I assume it's Jason, and believe me as it seems like it's not a lot it's more that most fathers spend with their babies helping wives. Yes, may be working fathers, but I bet he at least trying to do smth to bring money to home. I'm not saying that he devotes all his time to Indie and is not lazy, but he deffinitely spends more time than you think with her. It's Sam who can not understand that with baby all these endless shopping trips and hours spent on picking a new fancy bag you have nowhere to go are useless and she has to accept changes in her life.

I have a feeling they often drop Indie off at Sam's mom or Jason's family. So they can both have ''the day off'', Sam can go shopping, and Jason can laze around the house, play photographer or go to ''training''.

[3eyedraven17]

For those who constantly say that Jason is not helping - you are wrong. She has time to shop, to go to beauty salons, she has time to do her hair and makeup, she had time to organize the wedding and go to gym on regular basics, she has time to cook.... As she says they have no caregiver someone should stay with Indie all this time and I assume it's Jason, and believe me as it seems like it's not a lot it's more that most fathers spend with their babies helping wives. Yes, may be working fathers, but I bet he at least trying to do smth to bring money to home. I'm not saying that he devotes all his time to Indie and is not lazy, but he deffinitely spends more time than you think with her. It's Sam who can not understand that with baby all these endless shopping trips and hours spent on picking a new fancy bag you have nowhere to go are useless and she has to accept changes in her life.

I do actually agree with this. That trip to Poland and whatnot he had the baby in his stories. I do think he might be the better parent. He seems absolutely adore his daughter. But with sam it just feels soooo forced.

And I agree on whoever said that sam should take a break from YouTube or just stop trying to keep up with her previous content.

She just keeps losing subs She's gone down more on her Instagram from 596k to 591!! And her social blade stats.. Patricia bright was alwayz an underdog is literally running laps around sam!! But I ain't mad because I love pat!

[-Tara-]

As I've mentioned before I've stopped watching Sammi's videos but I made an exception and watched the 'I'm struggling' vlog to see how she's feeling.
I wanted to comment on her video but didn't feel like dealing with all the hate so I'm gonna write it here in case she checks this site.

1. Please have indie sit upright in her stroller when she's eating. It's more comfortable and much safer.

2. You're a new mom and don't need to have it all figured out. I think you'd benefit from following some mommy youtubers/instagrammers. Some of them have really good tips and talk about the reality of parenting.

3. when babies are teething they wake up more often, they cry more and are extra clingy. It's normal. They have pain they don't understand and need comfort. I know it's tiring but its part of being a parent. Most moms don't have the luxury to just go shopping when it gets tough. Depression aside, I hope you find a way to accept the work that comes with parenting in a way that doesn't constantly leave you annoyed by your child.

4. Please see a professional for your depression. For your sake and your child's sake. Your life will be much happier and there is no shame in needing help.

5. You don't have to vlog everyday. You don't need to be on the same schedule as before. Don't put that kind of pressure on yourself. Just do the best you can. It's not indie's fault, she's a baby.

During my son's first year, I lacked SO much sleep. He was such a terrible sleeper. He only napped on my legs during the day. If I moved an inch he'd wake up. He was so clingy... I was exhausted. I wished he was easier. I wishedhe'd sit in a stroller more so I could walk around the mall or go for a walk in peace. I wished he'd nap in his crib so I could rest too... But I never felt as disconnected to him as you do with indie. I wasn't constantly looking to leave him with someone else and I definitely didn't feel as unhappy as you seem to feel. So please just talk to a professional and make sure you're doing everything you can to be in your best/healthiest state of mind to raise your sweet daughter.
From one mom to another .. You need a routine/plan that works for you. That keeps your mind healthy and energized. It's time come to terms with the reality of being responsible for another human being. It can't be all about you anymore. Your baby needs you and you have to find a way to lovingly give them the time /attention that they need. She will grow before you know it and you will soon have more time for yourself. Just hang in there.

[Pearlsandlipstick77]

Im shocked she is asking people on the internet for tips???!! On pnd...wtf? She seems soo clueless and naive. Its beyond belief.
Ok shes being honest shes finding it hard but if she said 'im seeing a therapist' then its different.

I feel soooo sorry for indie the disgust i see in her face anytime she talks about her...she is a BABY... damn.....she wont sleep, she cries in the car...shes having a nap (the absolute pleasure in her face)
And the cut away to mum time ie going shopping speaks volumes!!!!! Talking about her damn shoes..she is sad... material shite makes her happy.
The minute youtube money runs out and she cant by £100 candles will become depressed. I see her video views going down 68k over 3 days on a favourites on her main channel...thats quite low.
She looks and is a mess..
And I dont like jason but whenever i see him and indie she looks really happy!!! He interacts with her allot different to Sammi.

[bitchesbelike]

Yeah I had to watch the vlog and I feel really bad for her, you can see when she talks about it she's really down. I feel like she is already in therapy and not saying?
I dunno but asking people for tips, I was shocked. She needs a therapist who she can be totally honest with and they can give her the strategies she needs. Asking random people on the internet is a no-no because I feel she needs a plan catered to her and that's why you go to therapy.
I do feel sorry for both her and Sam if as she's teething, babies are deffo more clingy and irritable during this time. Indie is also making so much progress! Isn't she only like 10 months or something? Bloody brilliant that she's standing up and teething before her first birthday!

[crazydoglady]

I don't get people who say dolls reinforce gender roles. I LOVED dolls growing up - I had three baby borns (including a black one because super white 6-year-old me was equal opportunities) but I was also the biggest 'tomboy' going. Sports, helping Dad wash the cars and do DIY, climbing trees. Hated the colour pink, wouldn't go near a skirt until I was 13. Wanting to nurture a plastic doll doesn't mean a child had been forced into prescribed gender roles. Jeez, talk about reading too much into things. If she's that worried, buy the kid a train set or something too.

[Lolalolo1]

Guys people in the comments on her lastest vlog are so stupid.. they're going on and on about how she shouldn't be talking abt gender roles and whatever because she bought her baby PINK clothes why are people so stupid I mean it's just a color.. even one of the commenters was saying that she will only buy neutral clothes for her baby and when when he grows up he'll decide what colors he's comfortable wearing.. jeez people are getting so stupid these days.. ITS JUST COLORS!!!

[saywhatyouwant2me]

This whole gender neutral thing is tiring and she's mentioned it in the last 3 vlogs.
What if indie wants dolls? What if she likes pink?
And further more, so what?
In my opinion the most important aspect of being gender neutral is not enforcing any fears onto your child such as discouraging a girl to play with trucks and a boy with dolls.
Did she ever consider there may be little boys who want a baby born? Isn't her assumption it's aimed at or suited to indie stereotypical in itself?
I'm 27 so I grew up at a time when gendering was still a thing and I'm hardly a delicate little flowery soft "stereotypical" woman and tbf no one else my age is.
Get over it!

[guuuuurl33]

Y'all look at her hairline in this photo she was tagged in...HOW is her weave sitting so far back?!?


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[Lolokwow]

Y'all look at her hairline in this photo she was tagged in...HOW is her weave sitting so far back?!?


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It looks as though it's growing out but she doesn't have a closure so that can't be right. Her hair stylist is truly awful. I know she reads her and reads her comments, WHY is she so stubborn to go to a proper stylist (or just take care of her natural hair)