I get that change is scary, but I truly believe that in order to move on you need space. My last ex and I were together for 2.5 years, lived together for 1.5 years and after we broke up, I moved 300 miles away. I had always wanted to move, so I took the opportunity to grab the bull by the horns and just do my life. Plus everywhere I went in that reminded me of him anyway.kittycatpancake wrote:This is something I struggled with when I had a big breakup as well. It is just a grocery store, but combined with the other circumstances, the unfamiliarity can feel overwhelming. It isn't the grocery store itself, it's the 'something new'. Too much newness at once makes you feel like you have a grip on nothing.Champagne4Breakfast wrote:I really get the impression that Nikki isn't as happy or feeling as "together" as she makes it seem. In her last video she talked about going grocery shopping in Sugar Land because she wasn't comfortably going to a new grocery store yet.... I mean come on, it's a grocery store. She travelled around the world and back, alone, twice in the last month and she can't go to a new grocery store?? The first time you go it might be confusing, but it's not like it's a life changing event... She looked at a new gym but then has been back at Alphalete twice. She's been posting stupid quotes about happiness on Snapchat (like her mess of a friend Marissa). I think she is still really hurting and struggling to re-establish herself.
She probably really is hurting, a breakup of a serious relationship can take a year before you really feel back to your old self. She's putting on a strong face but sometimes fake it til you make it is the best route in that case.
Change is scary for everyone, but in order to truly grow and move you, you have to take that fear, feel it, sit in it and embrace it.