http://cheeserland.com/2016/03/the-helper/
...two weeks ago, our helper has run away and I won’t be getting any help at least for the time being.
She ran away like a dog???
Although she didn’t technically “run away”, but it was treated as a runaway case and I had to make the police report and pay a hefty compound..
Initially I felt a little bad. I mean, she must have missed her family very much. She texted, “I need to take care of my son, he is so thin now. I hope you understand“.
But later I found out from one of her helper friends that the reason she chose not to return was because of boyfriend trouble. She was supposed to get married to a nice man when she finishes her contract (and I knew about it and agreed to let her go back if she wishes to), but she met another guy recently (!?! when?!) and now is in a love triangle drama.
Agreed to let her go?? do you own her??? do you have the right to agree?? how do you believe what the other maids said?? she didn't have time to meet a boyfriend because she was working? is that why you ask when?? Cant she leave her job anytime??
And honestly? A helper was one of the worst things we have ever brought into our family.
She was allowed a smart-phone from the beginning, had access to our internet 24 hours, and when she finishes her work, which is typically around 8pm, she can go back to her room and talk to her family and friends, and Skype with her son however much she likes. Everyday.
She was allowed wow. She has a room in your house and can use you wifi how kind of you!!! and can talk with family at night. wow.
Occasionally she was also allowed to meet her sister and friends for lunches and go for her agency’s maid gatherings. She went back to Philippines four times to see her family while working with us in a short year, once when her grandfather passed away, and three times when we had to go back to Japan for a few weeks.[/quote]
Some friends were shocked at how much freedom we gave her, and warned that we would surely regret it because they will just take advantage of your kindness and ask for more instead of appreciating it and giving the same back to you.
OMG you gave some freedom to a human being, HOW KIND.
“Never ever allow handphones. Don’t let them mix with other helpers.”
Don't let them mix??? WTF? cant hey have friends?? cant they chose their friends??
One day I accidentally found out that she has been buying her own groceries without my knowledge. Sometimes I sent her out to buy groceries, and it must have been going on for a while. She would buy the family things, and then a separate grocery for herself and hid it in her room thinking that I wouldn’t notice.
If you agreed to allow her live in your house, you should know that she will need extra groceries, maybe personal things like period pads or aspirins or a little snack. Oh i forgot, she is your slave.
some of the cosmetics or outfits were things that I didn’t use anymore or probably don’t even remember having, and she must have thought that I get so much sponsored stuff all the time so it’s pretty much free stuff anyway, therefore it’s nothing wrong that she could take for her own use… I guess? But still, not having the courtesy to ask for permission was really disrespectful.
(By the way regarding this issue the danna was like “I guess she really really wanted them? Why don’t you just give her more stuff? Then she won’t take anymore.” Awesome logic.)
All my friends that had maids gave them clothes that they don't need anymore as well, make up, perfumes and even electronics that don't use anymore, since they come from poverty, and you have so much make up and thing that were given free shouldn't be difficult to be a little generous.
I used to think her husband was an idiot but I see he is actually a good hearted person.
One moment I wished she was gone, but then the next moment I looked at the clean house and fresh laundry, and I suddenly felt very thankful for her. What would I do without her? She was just doing her job! And I started to feel guilty for my own pettiness. I mean, she was considered a really good helper compared to many other scary stories I have heard.
And then the very next moment I was feeling real shit because I knew I couldn’t do without a helper at home and I couldn’t imagine a life without one. I mean, honestly?? I have not swept the floor for one year.
To be honest, I even feel a little ashamed that I have one. It made me feel less of a mother. Did I really need one? Am I less capable of other mothers who did it all by themselves? Am I just plain lazy????
And then I realized I have not really treated her as part of our family as I promised myself to. I tried real hard, trust me, I did. But I could not. She was completely an outsider in our house. One who could not fit into our family culture. A family member does not do sneaky things behind your back betting on luck that you will never find out. And on the other hand you don’t always be wary or distrustful towards a family member.
So long ago, I worked in a grocery store (only for two weeks) I did everything, cleaning, organize and work as a cashier, I was paid less than one U.S dollar an hour, and I was not allow to clean my hands at the toilet room and to drink water, so I started bringing my own bottled water and my boss, who was a young woman said I was stealing water every day. Every time she forgot where she left her keys or money she said I was stealing. REMANDS ME OF CHEESIE.
Plus, think of the differences between a human helper and a Robot Helper:
A Robot Helper will never wear your clothes without permission.
A Robot Helper will never peel half the prawns and secretly throw half away just because prawn peeling gets too troublesome.
A Robot Helper doesn’t put on full make up and take selfies in the toilet.
A Robot Helper will never compare with other Robot Helpers about their salary. BECAUSE THEY DON’T GET ANY.
---- HOW DARES MY SLAVE TO COMPARE HER SALARY TO OTHERS SLAVES, DOESN'T SHE KNOWS IS AN HONOR TO WORK WITH ME FOR PEANUTS.WTF
Which means, you don’t have to pay your Robot Helper salaries.
A Robot Helper will never request for things, and if it really does, you can always say no without worrying that you will hurt its feelings.
A Robot Helper doesn’t have relatives who die one after another so they can go back to their country to see them. Seriously, 真的有这么多亲戚给你死咩.
A Robot Helper doesn’t get PMS so YOU DON’T HAVE TO DEAL WITH YOUR ROBOT HELPER’S EMOTIONAL SHIT.
“Set your boundaries for the next one. Never bring her out. AND NO PHONE.”
WHO THE FUCK SUGGESTED THAT??? DON'T BRING HER OUT. WHAT THE FUCK??? Is she a DOG???
WOW, I think she really is rooted.
EMOTIONAL SHIT, A RELATIVE DYING???
What if one day her family business fails and ends up poor and cant make a living out of blogging any more. What if she had to work a job (not from home) and her son fells sick or even die and her employers are annoyed at her EMOTIONAL SHIT
I guess that's enough to make them drift apart.
it's like a "rules” when hiring a maid.
