Background: I'm 19, living with my parents, attending junior college. ( Almost done with my AA though!
)My mother is obese. Like 280 pounds, early 60's. She also has back problems. She's been overweight since before I was born, pretty much her whole life. She also has anger issues and is incredibly verbally abusive at times. Nearly every day she yells or fights with either me and my dad. We both have learned to keep our cool and shut it out though. My grandmother ( maternal ) also lives with us, and recently became disabled as well.
About 5 weeks ago my mom slipped outside the house and ended up fracturing her leg because of the pressure of her weight trying to get up. This was right after my grandmother fell, so for the last 2 months or so I've been caring for both of them. It's been stressful being a day and night nurse along with school and my job but I've been able to handle it. However, I think my dad is on his last rope.
My dad is very hardworking and has put up with my mom's outbursts and over-eating as well as I. He does drink but has never gotten violent or disruptive. But lately he's been drinking more, and told me the other day about how angry he was over my mom breaking her leg. She whines about wanting sympathy when she's not yelling and berating us from her chair about food, chores ect. But he really doesn't feel sorry for her because she can't will herself to lose weight, because she overeats when stressed. She eats whole packages of ice cream, boxes of cereal and packages of cookies. The other day she pretty much ate two larges bags of peanut M&M's by herself. She goes on a diet every month or so but goes back to her old ways. She also tried Weight Watchers but made excuses to not go. She also has a shopping addiction and buys way too much food, expensive clothes and jewelry she doesn't need, and put herself 10 K in debt at one point.
My dad has been going out more than usual, so I'm not sure what he's doing but I really don't blame him. I have to wonder if he wants a divorce because he's just sick of her behavior. He said he'd pay for Weight Watchers or a personal therapist and that I could go with her to make sure she'd stick to it. I'd be willing to do it but I don't think she realizes what she's doing to her marriage. I kind of wish they would separate sometimes because she just treats him so badly and acts like he'll be her punching bag forever. I would love if he met someone that treated him well because i think he deserves better. She is constantly shooting both of us down, saying her problems with work and her health are so much worse than ours because we "don't have it as hard". It's making me really hate her.
Can you guys give me any suggestions on how to help my mom lose weight? And do I sound like a bad person if I wouldn't feel too bad about my parents divorcing? Any and all advice is appreciated.
