exactly. it's so easy for straight people to say that no one needs to be in the closet anymore, but there is absolutely no denying that coming out changes the way people see you, the way they interact with you, the way you work and live and love. colleen would become a "gay youtuber." she would have to deal with parents not wanting their children to consume her content (her audience is young, after all), with intrusive questions about her life, her sexuality, and that's on top of what normal gay people deal with every day. do you know how tiring it is to be The Gay Friend? i have a liberal family and live in a liberal town and i still have to put up with people staring at me when im in public with my girlfriend, or asking me how i have sex, or making weird comments about how they would never have known i was gay if they just saw me on the street. it's exhausting.IKnowTooMuch wrote:EmmyRed wrote:Also, with others saying she's a lesbian, what reason does she have to still be in the closet? She's very accepting of gay people, she talks about it on her channel, so if her fans don't have a problem with that I don't see why they'd have a problem with her being gay. Also, Kory is gay and no one around her has a problem with him. So if she's gay, I don't really see the point of her hiding it. I know some have said her family is "conservative" but I really just don't believe they're as conservative as some want to believe, because from what I know about them I can't get where they'd be conservative at all, I know they're Christians, but that doesn't mean conservative.kiki wrote:as a few of you have said, that oreo challenge video is painful to watch. after watching their anniversary vlog again, as someone mentioned, it also looks pretty bad. Colleen just seems like she could not care less.
she's obviously not a very emotional person, and they've both got an immature sense of humor but can she EVER be serious with him? that must have caused problems between them, and not sure how that part of her personality will work with any other guy either.
as for the lesion speculation... I'd be pretty surprised but not totally shocked. her sister definitely comes off (to me) as a little gay, and Colleen seems similar in some ways... but it'd be pretty unlikely for her to be this age, gay, and married to a man. not impossible, of course, but unlikely.
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It's not a matter of whether or not they're "as conservative as some want to believe". I don't 'want to believe' it. I actually KNOW it. Her family is extremely religion-driven. Having friends that are gay has nothing to do with the members of her family. Why do they care if her FRIENDS are gay? That's not their 'problem'. Having a daughter who is friends with gay people (or as I like to refer to them, people) is not the same thing as having a DAUGHTER who is gay. Maybe they won't have as big of an issue with it as she assumes they would. But she's clearly scared about it for a reason.
Maybe the reason has more to do with her brand. Her image. She has a lot on the line. It's not as simple as 'just coming out' for everyone.
whatever fantasy world you all live in where the closet is unnecessary also doesnt take into account that people are all unique individuals and that something like coming out is hard as fuck. from birth, we internalize the idea that there is something wrong about us, that people are made uncomfortable by us, that you are dirty and secret and terrible and no one can know that youre a pervert. some people have to unpack that more than others. some people dont want to ruin their careers (ive been fired for being gay before!). some people are just more comfortable living the life theyre expected to live; then they dont have to worry theyre letting anyone down.
whether colleen is gay or not, you have no way of knowing. insisting that she's too old or too married or too whatever is ridiculous.