I’ve never really spoken to anyone about this, as my friends really didn’t understand.
Basically throughout Year 11, I started speaking to this guy called Chris over msn(LOL) and facebook, he was two years above me and in the sixth form in the school I was at, I was generally a shy girl and so was he, but when we spoke on msn he was the most confident person in the world apparently and I really took a liking to him as he made me happy, and myself. I quickly fell for him, and after a while he would always ask me to do ‘stuff’ over webcam on msn, always would refuse and he’d be very persistent but somehow I’d always get out of it, he would never show his face over a webcam. We started to have really boring conversations which I would always have to start, about nothing and he would always guaranteeed to try and make me do stuff on webcam to him. Gross right? Although he said he really liked me, promised we’d meet over the summer, we never did. He barely spoke to me that summer (although I was quite happily sunning myself in Turkey for 3 weeks!
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When I went back to school that September I was in the sixth form, he was a year above me as he retook a year. So we were always together, common room, everything. Whey I thought. We’d get together, get over our shyness and finally be a couple. None of the sort. He would NOT speak to me in person. Quite happily with his friends though, always caught him staring at me though. I’d go home of a night and straight away he’d be pestering me on facebook and msn…urgh!! I finally had enough and started to ignore it and was actually enjoying my time at sixth form, where I’d met one of his exes and that’s pretty much when he stopped chatting to me overall, he got nasty about my past and one of my exes is his friends, and told him I was leading him on and yeah…not fun.. His ex and I became really chummy (still are) and I think about 2 months passed and we’d not spoken, I was kind of seeing another guy from another town and I was happy.
Chris popped up, saying how much he regretted not speaking to me, how much he wants us to get together ect.. Told him I was seeing someone else and he said we’d see how it went. Something happened with me and new guy unrelated to Chris and we weren't seeing each other any more and Chris found out, we spoke all night about how our lives have been and catching up, the conversation was actually going well. He didn't even perv over webcam! He promised we’d meet up for lunch the next day. Lunch came, and I got a text saying he couldn't meet up and my heart sank, too good to be true. I told Amy (his ex/my best friend) about it all, as I’d kept it all a secret and she told me about them and warned me about it and said steer clear, as she knew he was texting our friend, Bella. I couldn't though.
Christmas came, we had an annual boat party and everyone got drunk, Chris approached me, told me he was sorry for everything and that he really loved me.. On the way back from the boat party, somehow Amy had found out his Facebook password and we being silly drunk girls, went on his account and there it was, confirmed he was talking to all these girls, saying the same things to them that he’d said to me.. ‘I love you’ There was something about him I couldn't stay away from though..heartbroken. He’d always tell me he loved me and I fell for it. He eventually started going out with one of my friends, Kayley. I was kind of glad it was over for me and I’d deal with it and move on. They lasted about 8 months and during that time I’d well and truly gotten over it and realised what an idiot I was. We actually spoke every now and then and asked how I was. Just chit chat.
I left sixth form as I didn't actually like it all too much, and went into full time work and this was when him and Kayley had broken up. We met at a party later on, I didn't know he was going to be there, he was, and he approached me. Said he missed me, asked how I was. We chatted for so long, a proper chat, in person.. Not over a screen. It was weird, maybe the relationship gave him his long lost confidence. (By this point I was over my shyness, I’d lost some weight, generally happier at home etc) We danced, chatted more, I was having a great time. Although I wasn’t drunk, he convinced me to sleep with him, I did. Stayed at his, and never heard from him after that. He got what he wanted, and left. Although I didn’t regret it, I wished I wasn’t so naive about it all. I had enough, deleted his number, his facebook, and every memory and got on with it. I think him doing that made me realise the scumbag he was.
August came, and I met Simon, my current boyfriend (3 years strong now, woop!) And Chris magically appeared after not speaking to me once, kept on asking how I was, how my relationship was.. I told Simon all about him and what happened and obviously he didn’t like him. But over the space of 6 months he would randomly ask how my relationship was going, as if it was going to fail? Weird.. But haven’t actually really spoken to him since, he’s got a long term girlfriend now and might have grown up?
That’s my story of an idiot boy!!!
Sorry it’s a little jumbled ha
it does hurt! a lot! I think my advice to you would be to collect anything of yours, that you really need/want, from his place (if you have anything) wash them. Or bin them. Get rid of his scent. Throw out anything he has given such as flowers, a t shirt.. as you don't want to be reminded of him. Wash your sheets, buy a plant, adopt a cat or get hooked on a new t.v show. Throw yourself into work, school or even a new hobby, start running or going on a night out with friends. Spend more time with family, friends and keep distracted. Delete him off EVERYTHING, I mean everything!!! Facebook, Twitter Instagram, Snapchat, Whatsapp, his mobile number. It might be hard at first but then you won't get tempted to go check out his profile.. You could block him but at the same time but then he can't see how great your life is without him!
I agree with you guys that it's probably best for me to cut off all contact with him, but i just don't think I'm ready for that yet. I'll probably end up having to learn the hard way, but for now I think I'm just going to take it day by day and see how I feel.
