Do you feel like you have no friends?

[mommyoftwogirlsca]

I sometimes don't feel like I have friends. My best friends live in Vancouver and never make a effort to visit me. And anytime I meet a girl where I live they move away. And my other good friend lives in the states so I never get to see her. I'm kinda shy so I only have one friend out here that I hang out with. Otherwise I'm just with my kids day in and day out. And my hubby is my best friend and he will always be.

[0222]

I literally have no friends. The last time I even did anything social was over a yearl and a half ago with a friend I had made online. We don't even speak anymore. It's hard for me to make friends because I'm so shy. I'm also severely depressed and have horrible social anxiety that it's just a lot easier for me to sit at home alone than to go out and try to meet someone.

I also feel like I'm not good enough for anyone to actually want to be friends with me. I'm the biggest loser ever... But then there is a part of me where I find most people disgusting and would rather be alone than have them as my friend.

A lot of people are sexist, racist, homophobic, trans-phobic and just awful people.
Whenever I am around people my age I just feel so bitter and annoyed.

[Shameless]

I have got two "best" friends that I made in high school. We still talk really often but only on facebook because we now live really far away from each other.

I also have 5 "close" friends that I made through work. We often hang out outside of work, etc.

Although many of these friends are females, I find it difficult to make friends with some women because to be honest I just don't like them and not for any particular reason. I just find some females to be so daft sometimes and all they talk about is their kids/husband as if nothing else exists in the world (of course men can be annoying like this too but I find it easier to avoid this type of male).

I also do not like people who don't have strong personality traits. In other words I do not like people who are plain or boring. For example, there is this girl at my work who is actually really nice but her personality is like watching paint dry and that makes it really hard to talk to her.

[NotAZombie]

I have very few friends whom I still get in contact with. I was kinda troubled with it at first and wondered why I can't be like the others who can get to know like 3 new friends at one night over the club, turned out to realise because I'm VERY picky in the group of friend I'm hanging out with and what I value in a friend is different than theirs.

I think there is nothing wrong to have higher standard in picking the friends you want to stick with. There are some people who just don't worth the time to befriend with, although the odds are you may ended up alone at some point of your life, but hell I rather hanging out with a few people whom share the same interest rather than trying to please a huge group of people who don't give a shit about my welfare.

[luv4u859]

I don't have any close friends where I live. Over the summer I had a couple moments where I got lonely and felt like no one cared. I do have 1 friend here who I go out places with but she does not talk and its so awkward. Last night we went out to dinner for her birthday and she did not talk the whole time we were there. It makes me not want to hang out with her.

My bestfriend of 9 years used to live in NYC which wasn't to far from me and I could get on the train to visit her but now she moved to another state but I still talk to her daily and tell her everything.

I also have a friend who lives in Texas, we never met but we are close friends and talk daily.

[luv4u859]

I literally have no friends. The last time I even did anything social was over a yearl and a half ago with a friend I had made online. We don't even speak anymore. It's hard for me to make friends because I'm so shy. I'm also severely depressed and have horrible social anxiety that it's just a lot easier for me to sit at home alone than to go out and try to meet someone.

I also feel like I'm not good enough for anyone to actually want to be friends with me. I'm the biggest loser ever... But then there is a part of me where I find most people disgusting and would rather be alone than have them as my friend.

A lot of people are sexist, racist, homophobic, trans-phobic and just awful people.
Whenever I am around people my age I just feel so bitter and annoyed.

I feel the same exact way as you. It sucks. Now that I am back to work, had summer off, I don't feel as bad anymore because I am busy all day and then have classes at night, but it does sometimes suck to feel like you have no idea. I am also extremely shy as well

[ThisIsSPARTAA]

It's different with me. I just simply enjoy being alone. This has taught me who I am, and what my personality really is. Even with my family or my best friend, I am different than when I am by myself. I much rather stay at home and read a book then go to a party I am not 100% wanted and will probably end up just hurting myself by letting people judge me. People can be cruel.

[0222]

It's different with me. I just simply enjoy being alone. This has taught me who I am, and what my personality really is. Even with my family or my best friend, I am different than when I am by myself. I much rather stay at home and read a book then go to a party I am not 100% wanted and will probably end up just hurting myself by letting people judge me. People can be cruel.

I love being alone too. When I'm around other people I feel like I'm being emotionally drained and I need be alone to like... regenerate or something. I feel the most content with myself when I am alone.

[0222]

I literally have no friends. The last time I even did anything social was over a yearl and a half ago with a friend I had made online. We don't even speak anymore. It's hard for me to make friends because I'm so shy. I'm also severely depressed and have horrible social anxiety that it's just a lot easier for me to sit at home alone than to go out and try to meet someone.

I also feel like I'm not good enough for anyone to actually want to be friends with me. I'm the biggest loser ever... But then there is a part of me where I find most people disgusting and would rather be alone than have them as my friend.

A lot of people are sexist, racist, homophobic, trans-phobic and just awful people.
Whenever I am around people my age I just feel so bitter and annoyed.

I feel the same exact way as you. It sucks. Now that I am bback to work, had summer off, I don't feel as bad anymore because I am busy all day and then have classes at night, but it does sometimes suck to feel like you have no idea. I am also extremely shy as well

Well, at least you're working and going to school. That's good! I've been putting off school for so long because the thought of having to be around so many people around my age is just too hard for me to even deal with. I've actually put off college for so long that people my age are now graduating. And now the thought of going to school and having to be around a bunch of younger people just puts me off. Damn. Now I'm depressed.

[spongecookie]

This thread is actually quite comforting to me haha.
In late highschool/first year university I had a lot more friends and had quite the social life but I was unfortunately struck by a chronic condition that rendered going out near impossible. I'm not going to blame my illness entirely for the demise of my social circle though. I guess university life changes people. In highschool a lot of my closest friends actually attended different schools to me, so it's not attending different universities that's the problem. It's legitimately either certain friends have become social climbers obsessed with partying and making fake friends with a million different people, or their interests have simply changed and now we have nothing to talk about. Now I see all those friends maybe every few months at parties but the late night Skype calls/Facebook chats and weekly catch ups just aren't a thing anymore.
The "friends" I have at university are nice and all, but it's more like an acquaintance thing and there's no interest in socialising with them off campus.
It's kind of depressing but at the same time, I've maintained strong friendships with certain old friends despite practically losing contact with the majority of them. Also, the guy I'm seeing is awesome lol. We're practically best friends with benefits because we talk/hang out everyday and play video games together all the time and I'm honestly so satisfied with life because of him. God knows how bored I'd be if we stopped seeing each other though lol.
A few solid friendships > a bustling social life with a million acquaintances.

[spongecookie]

I have got two "best" friends that I made in high school. We still talk really often but only on facebook because we now live really far away from each other.

I also have 5 "close" friends that I made through work. We often hang out outside of work, etc.

Although many of these friends are females, I find it difficult to make friends with some women because to be honest I just don't like them and not for any particular reason. I just find some females to be so daft sometimes and all they talk about is their kids/husband as if nothing else exists in the world (of course men can be annoying like this too but I find it easier to avoid this type of male).

I also do not like people who don't have strong personality traits. In other words I do not like people who are plain or boring. For example, there is this girl at my work who is actually really nice but her personality is like watching paint dry and that makes it really hard to talk to her.

Lol I can so relate. I don't consider myself a "special snowflake" by any means, but I have tomboyish interests and mannerisms. Which is weird because I love makeup and other girly things too. But my personality is just at odds with a lot of girls my age, and I just find so many of them give off this air of superiority, or are judgemental whereas most guys my age are really laid back and inclusive and just way more pleasant to be around.

[PyroMakeup]

I know I don't have any friends. I mean I have a bf. But friends wise nope! I'm actually not too bothered by it either. I've tried to keep friends but trying to hang out and stuff, but all the people who I thought were friends always flaked out on me last second. So I just gave up on trying to have friends. May sound depressing, but it's the truth. :/

[husky]

So apparently two of my friends, one of the ones who's going to grad school and the one who I was already pissed at, went to Europe together. I thought just my friend who was going to grad school was going, with her family, but nope, apparently they are going together for either part of it or all of it. I only found out when they posted a photo on Facebook of the two of them together. I'm kind of hurt because they knew that I didn't have any plans for the summer and that I have been wanting to travel for a while, so why didn't they invite me? Everyone else out of our group of friends who wasn't invited either already had plans for the summer or is not in the area. Now I'm considering cutting off the friend I was already pissed at for good.

This happened to me. I overheard (they didn't know) some friends talking to each other at school and realised that they were taking a trip. I had a feeling that I wasn't invited. I didn't say anything. They never talked to me about it. Summer came and went.. and these three girls who I had felt close to only a few years back had gone on a holiday abroad. Without me. I felt crushed. I kept myself busy for the remainder of school and didn't see/speak to them from then on (we didn't share classes). They never mentioned this trip before or after they took it. I cut them all off because I just couldn't forgive them. They pretty much didn't bother with me when they returned and by then I was hurt and I wanted nothing to do with them. A few months later the girl i felt closest to messaged me on facebook trying to apologise, but she did it by listing and explaining all the reasons I wasn't invited. I don't know whose idea it was and if she only went along with it but I was disappointed all over again. Looking back they weren't actual friends to me but they clearly felt like friends when I wasn't there. I don't regret cutting them out of my life. I wish it had happened sooner because I had the opportunity to go to a better school for my last 2 years and meet new people but I stayed where I was because I liked the familiar and having my 'friends' there. Luckily the fallout happened in my very last year and I just focused on finishing school.

I still feel messed up from it. I've since had a really tough time meeting new people and trying to make friends. Especially girls. I struggled at university and didn't really meet anyone except my boyfriend and a few nice guys I could talk to. It's ruined my confidence and I find it so hard to trust girls. I try not to judge anyone but I really can't help it at this point. I get so anxious of what they think of me and I just can't be chatty and friendly to people I barely know. I'm usually content spending time alone but would really like to have at least 1 girl I can call friend.

They never even said anything to me. They just went. And that was that. As far as I know these three girls aren't even friends anymore. They don't talk or see each other and their facebooks show them leading very different lives.

Sorry for the story, I was in the same boat a while back.

[mameha]

This quote always resonated with me:

“I was tired of pretending that I was someone else just to get along with people, just for the sake of having friendships.”
― Kurt Cobain

When I'm around people I always feel like I'm on the outside, looking in. I prefer my own company.

[youtubeness]

I have very few close friends but I do want to make more friends but its kinda been hard for me. How do yall make good friends? In college I have just made acquaintances and I don't know how to make real friendships out of them. I show up to class and I feel like everyone just wants to get class over with and leave but I want friends to hang out with outside of class. On another note I really do like being by myself sometimes...im a total introvert!

[PyroMakeup]

This quote always resonated with me:

“I was tired of pretending that I was someone else just to get along with people, just for the sake of having friendships.”
― Kurt Cobain

When I'm around people I always feel like I'm on the outside, looking in. I prefer my own company.

Looove that quote. Soo true.
Oh and I agree I feel the same way.

[PyroMakeup]

I have very few close friends but I do want to make more friends but its kinda been hard for me. How do yall make good friends? In college I have just made acquaintances and I don't know how to make real friendships out of them. I show up to class and I feel like everyone just wants to get class over with and leave but I want friends to hang out with outside of class. On another note I really do like being by myself sometimes...im a total introvert!

Yeah it's the same way in my college as well. We all go to class and it seems like no one really wants to extend time outside of class with people.

[youtubeness]

Yeah it's the same way in my college as well. We all go to class and it seems like no one really wants to extend time outside of class with people.

Its crazy because I have had some classes where theres like 200-300 plus people and Im just thinking theres gotta be a couple people in here that would be awesome friends but how am I suppose to find them?!?!?!?! lol

[CoastinOnADream]

Sophomore year of high school I decided to stop being friends with people who had been my best friends since Kindergarten. They would leave me out of all the sleepovers, all the gossip, and used to talk shit about me. So I got sick of it and stopped hanging out with them. They never once tried to say sorry or see why I had stopped talking to them. I remember being so miserable that year - I used to go to my car for lunch because I had no friends.

Junior year came around and I started hanging out with this girl and we became best friends. We pretty much hung out everyday and then she got a boyfriend during the Summer. I thought we were gonna have an awesome senior year, but I've hung out with her ONCE. Her boyfriend is very controlling, and he treats her like SHIT and she puts up with it because she says the sex is amazing. She's pathetic, she follows him around like a dog. I don't even really talk to her because I'm so disgusted she lets him treat her like that.

I just want friends who actually give a shit about me.I wish I had people I could talk to, text, have sleepovers with. it sounds so lame but I just want a real best friend. :/

I'm sorry for rambling, and maybe not making sense. This has been on my mind a lot, and I just typed it quickly lol