SEX!

[dazzle]

I'm enough of a hypochondriac, I really shouldn't google that

[gr4pefruits]

I recently met a guy and he mentioned he once had a foursome with three girls. I'm pretty sure he was lying, judging by the way he explained it (just happened ~out of nowhere). I don't understand why some men feel the need to "brag" about things like that. I literally don't care how many partners someone has had (at the same time or otherwise) lol. I mean, anything over the 40-50 range is a little disconcerting for someone in their early 20's -- but I digress.

[queenalice]

If you think you don't need to do kegels look up uterus prolapse.

You're welcome for the nightmares ladies!

Why did I Google that. I knew what was coming. Omg D:

And HarperSi, I thought they DID make you tighter? At least that's what every pregnant woman/ person who's given birth told me. They insist that that's how they got tight again after giving birth lol

[TiffanyMaxwell]

I think it is different for women who have given birth. It is not like they are in their natural shape and then got tighter through the exercise, it is more like they got out of shape so the exercise helped them get back to normal.

[VeronicaSawyer]

If you think you don't need to do kegels look up uterus prolapse.

You're welcome for the nightmares ladies!

LOL OMG.

Rosebud porn is wayyy worse though.

NOPE NOPE NOPE

Whyyyy was I stupid enough to image search that

[gizcorn]

I recently met a guy and he mentioned he once had a foursome with three girls. I'm pretty sure he was lying, judging by the way he explained it (just happened ~out of nowhere). I don't understand why some men feel the need to "brag" about things like that. I literally don't care how many partners someone has had (at the same time or otherwise) lol. I mean, anything over the 40-50 range is a little disconcerting for someone in their early 20's -- but I digress.

This^ Knew a guy from a few years ago who was a dj at a club I used to frequent, our 2 groups of friends merged and we came to find out he's 22 and had at the time (probably more now let's be real) slept with 92 women. Had a list he updated on his phone every time he 'gained a conquest'. It's a shame because he was really cute, but I wouldn't want to be lowered to a name on a list like those other girls so I never pursued him.

[CaramelDrop]

Uterine Prolapse, yet another reason I won't be having children

[ggeyeliner]

Uterine Prolapse :s i am soo scared now. I have children, twins and with C-section but still, this looks scary.
Thankfully I have done kegel long time now, because of vaginismus

[bxtchy]

Hi. It would be great to get a lot of people talking about this topic because i'm curious.
There is no 'one' answer for this question, so i'm asking for many opinions/ different experiences regarding it.
So....
Does it hurt when you first have sex?
What were your experiences with your first time?

[VeronicaSawyer]

As has been said here previously, the whole "popping of the cherry" concept (rupturing the hymen) is a myth. The hymen already has an opening that is simply stretched. Whether or not the first time hurts is different for everyone. The vast majority of the time, pain comes from being too nervous (and thus not relaxed or lubricated enough). That is why I experienced pain during my first time.

[tamithomas]

My first time it didn't hurt as we did a lot of prepping meaning lots of lube, fingering to stretch first and we took it slow. Best part is it was the first time for both of us so there was no awkward one person knows more and no expectations. It was wonderful. Sure it lasted 5 minutes but we made love instead of just straight up sex.

[JustGlow]

If you bleed during your first time that usually means the hymen was torn. It's not very dangerous, but for some people it can hurt (if the tear is bad). Like Veronica said - the popping of the cherry thing is a myth.

[bxtchy]

How much did it hurt though? Like unbearable pain or just discomfort?

[VeronicaSawyer]

Just discomfort. If you are EVER in unbearable pain during sex that means it is time to stop.

[gizcorn]

Yeah I wasn't in pain when I lost mine because it sort of went from kissing, to our first time at everything else, so I was very turned on from all the new experiences. And like someone said ^ It does help if you're both virgins, it eases the pressure a little bit and allows both of you to revel in the moment, as opposed to having one person maybe expecting more from a first time.

[kathpt]

Just discomfort. If you are EVER in unbearable pain during sex that means it is time to stop.

This might sound weird but... can you compare the discomfort to something else? Like, wedgie discomfort or sand in the shoe discomfort?

[VeronicaSawyer]

Just discomfort. If you are EVER in unbearable pain during sex that means it is time to stop.

This might sound weird but... can you compare the discomfort to something else? Like, wedgie discomfort or sand in the shoe discomfort?

Well first of all, know that all the pain I experienced could have been avoided with some relaxation, preparation, and lube, haha. If I could compare it to something, hmm...possibly a sunburn rubbing against something? A minor scrape? Something like that. Or, you know what was almost exactly the same level, when they're working on your braces and they have to use that lip spreader/mouth opener thing and if your lips aren't moisturized it hurts for them to be spread like that. Almost exactly that level of discomfort, lol. Don't know if you had braces but yeah

[dulapeep]

Just discomfort. If you are EVER in unbearable pain during sex that means it is time to stop.

This might sound weird but... can you compare the discomfort to something else? Like, wedgie discomfort or sand in the shoe discomfort?

Obv not directed toward me but it sounds like VeronicaSawyer and I had similar experiences. I would compare it to like...being a little sore after a long workout. Like it kinda feels good but also it kinda hurts. Probably about the same level for me.

[queenalice]

I think for me, it felt like a slight pinch. To be honest, I didn't really notice it that much because I was so much more focused on everything else going on, and surprised at the new sensations. I must have broken my hymen because I saw bleeding in my panties later that day, but during the actual act-- no, it doesn't hurt that much. Focus more on the pleasure and new sensations than the pain and you'll be fine

[HattieChaos]

For me it felt like a knife was stabbing into me, because I had (and may still have, no idea) vaginismus. I think it's improved as I can now deal with fingers in there but idk if I could handle something as thick as a penis again yet.