SEX! Part 2: Fornication Station

[gizcorn]

So tomorrow I have a date with a guy from tinder, first time doing it and I'm scared shitless. He seems really sweet and is really cute, but idk.

I'm overweight and made sure I have a full body photo so they know, but I'm still worried he'll see me and want to leave but then I don't know.

I'm just really freaking nervous, and am probably freaking out over nothing but still. I don't know.

Sorry for the rant

[ECH]

So tomorrow I have a date with a guy from tinder, first time doing it and I'm scared shitless. He seems really sweet and is really cute, but idk.

I'm overweight and made sure I have a full body photo so they know, but I'm still worried he'll see me and want to leave but then I don't know.

I'm just really freaking nervous, and am probably freaking out over nothing but still. I don't know.

Sorry for the rant

I hope it all goes well for you

[Eapy]

Have the strings ever been an issue? I haven't done a ton of research but that's something that seems to come up

My brother's ex had an IUD and the strings weren't tied properly and it was pulled out I would die. That being said though, I think she got it at our high school health clinic that didn't have the most experience people

I had an IUD (copper, not the hormone one) and the strings were never an issue. Had lots of other issues with it however, and ended up getting it removed approx a year later. But no, the strings were never an issue.

[bits]

So tomorrow I have a date with a guy from tinder, first time doing it and I'm scared shitless. He seems really sweet and is really cute, but idk.

I'm overweight and made sure I have a full body photo so they know, but I'm still worried he'll see me and want to leave but then I don't know.

I'm just really freaking nervous, and am probably freaking out over nothing but still. I don't know.

Sorry for the rant

That's my biggest tinder anxiety (well, besides like, getting murdered)! I know I'm way too hard on myself about my appearance but I still have the same thought process. I always make an awkward joke about misleading photos and judge the reaction... I dunno If I would recommend that though, I'm just an awkward person and have word vomit sometimes. All I can say is I haven't had any tinder dudes up and leave because I was too gross in real life. I try to avoid the guys with small dicks who put "no fatties" in their bio and I've been good so far. Let us know how it goes!

[conflate]

Yep I have Nexplanon (Same method and hormones, only difference is Nexplanon shows up on xrays and Implanon doesn't) I had it changed in August so I'm on my second! As long as you're prepared for intense bleeding for a few months after insertion you'll be all set!

How many months was a few months for you? 3? 6? Really would like to know that there is an end in sight cuz I am so tired of switching forms of birth control.

[gizcorn]

Yep I have Nexplanon (Same method and hormones, only difference is Nexplanon shows up on xrays and Implanon doesn't) I had it changed in August so I'm on my second! As long as you're prepared for intense bleeding for a few months after insertion you'll be all set!

How many months was a few months for you? 3? 6? Really would like to know that there is an end in sight cuz I am so tired of switching forms of birth control.

Well for the first 4 weeks or so after getting in inserted I bleed pretty much non-stop but really light flow so it's annoying but it's managable. And I've had my 2nd one in now for a little over 3 months, and I've had 2 periods which the first was like that^ and the most recent lasted a week more than usual, and again was really light. My periods didn't stop while I've had it though, but I do go for months without having any, and then a couple weeks bleeding here and there. I would recommend it, but I understand that most women would be put off with the unreliability, but you can take the pill on top of it to regulate your periods if you so wish.


And thank you guys for the nice words about my date! It actually went really well, and he seems like a really nice guy, and I was worrying for nothing pretty much haha. I feel so much better about it now than I did at the time!

[bnx18]

Hi everyone. So I just recently started dating this guy (over a month ago) and he was a virgin where as I wasn't and we had sex for the first time a week ago and then we had it 3 times this weekend and he was surprisingly really good at it. Like amazingly so lol. But my question is, what are some good positions to try? Because even though I wasn't a virgin I had only had sex 2 other times and it was only missionary. We tried reverse cowgirl (I think it's called) and that was a lot of fun but I was wondering what are some other kinds you guys enjoy.

Also, I got a reallllly bad muscle cramp in my leg during it, does that happen to any of you?

Sorry it's so long, any suggestions would be nice though!

xo

[Loilee]

Y'all probably gonna hate me but I haven't had a period in two years lol. I used to have horrible periods that would set off my IBS and everything and I'd have to spent the first day or two laying in bed. And they were heavy - I was often anemic too.
Anyway, I asked my doctor for the POP and he gave me Cerazette and then later I had the Nexplanon implant.

I tried the combined pill and it made me depressed and made me spot. IUD/IUS/rings are not an option for me - I do not respond well to people messing with things down there (I can't watch 'Sex Send Me To The ER' anymore because it makes me puke). And my nonny seems to hate all condoms.

@bnx18 I get muscle cramps/aches in my legs after doing it too - I usually have trouble walking the next day

Positions that I like are doggy style, doggy style standing up, spooning and sometimes laying on my front and he comes in from behind. If you know what I mean lol.

[la_vie_est_belle]

@bnx18 I usually get leg cramps during sex too, but missionary with your legs on his shoulders feels soooo good! Not to be too tmi but it helps my boyfriend get in deeper & hit the right spots lol (sorry). I would recommend trying it out though

[LazyGaga]

I've got a question to ask you guys (sorry if this has been asked before) - does anyone feel a weird tingling in their legs after masturbating? I felt it last night. It's never happened to me before, and it makes me feel weird. Google tells me it's not an unusual occurrence...maybe I gave myself a great orgasm, hooray for me, but it didn't feel any different from my previous ones.
I'm just curious about whether it happened to anyone else here.

[DramaticBateman]

I haven't left my apartment in a couple of days because I have some kind of stomach virus from hell. I've been so incredibly horny. I masturbated five times yesterday, and that was without watching porn or anything remotely erotic. I need to get over this sickness and get out. Sigh.

[TiffanyMaxwell]

For some reason, I also feel a lot hornier when I spend some time at home. Maybe out of boredom? I don't know. I can control masturbation now though. When I was a bit younger, my private area used to hurt at times just because I overdid it lol

[dulapeep]

So my bf and I had sex for our first time (and his) a few weeks ago and he had a hard time cumming/keeping it up because he was so nervous. This is probably pretty common so I was wondering if any of y'all had any tips for helping this issue

[stripedsweater]

So my bf and I had sex for our first time (and his) a few weeks ago and he had a hard time cumming/keeping it up because he was so nervous. This is probably pretty common so I was wondering if any of y'all had any tips for helping this issue

Just keep at it. Don't take yourselves too seriously, take breaks if he needs to. Try to be understanding and know he has no control over what happens down there. Practice makes perfect


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[gossipbxtch09]

For some reason, I also feel a lot hornier when I spend some time at home. Maybe out of boredom? I don't know. I can control masturbation now though. When I was a bit younger, my private area used to hurt at times just because I overdid it lol

I can relate to that lol. when I was younger and kind of just discovered masturbation, I did it like 3 times a day every day my poor vajayjay

[TiffanyMaxwell]

For some reason, I also feel a lot hornier when I spend some time at home. Maybe out of boredom? I don't know. I can control masturbation now though. When I was a bit younger, my private area used to hurt at times just because I overdid it lol

I can relate to that lol. when I was younger and kind of just discovered masturbation, I did it like 3 times a day every day my poor vajayjay

Ya lol it's really hurtful, esp. if you hardly have any idea what you actually need to do because you're new to it. I didn't have my own computer to google it back in the day so I was kind of on my own figuring out what to do haha ended up with scratches and a badly hurting clit ..

[Hazel]

Hi everyone.
I've been with my bf about a year now and sex always used to hurt at first and it's only in the last few months where it hurts a lot less and I realised it was probably my mind holding me back because I find it's better when I feel relaxed. It no longer hurts as much, but I rarely feel pleasure from it and at this rate feel like I'll never orgasm. It still hurts a little for me to be on top too. Anyone have any advice on what I could do to make it feel better?

[Nikon]

^ Do you have enough foreplay? You might be thinking too much into it, which makes you stop enjoying sex and therefore making it more painful. Maybe invest in those small vibrators that you could use during or even before you guys have sex.

[ECH]

Had my first sex dream last night. It was...something. They're sort of a weird experience, haha.

[HattieChaos]

Hi everyone.
I've been with my bf about a year now and sex always used to hurt at first and it's only in the last few months where it hurts a lot less and I realised it was probably my mind holding me back because I find it's better when I feel relaxed. It no longer hurts as much, but I rarely feel pleasure from it and at this rate feel like I'll never orgasm. It still hurts a little for me to be on top too. Anyone have any advice on what I could do to make it feel better?

I'm the exact same. It's most likely your mind, you're right. If you get too paranoid that you're going to feel pain, you convince your body that you will feel pain and so your vaginal muscles tighten and it can be hard to insert anything in there without feeling any kind of pain. Catch-22! Obviously it gets better as you go on and relax a bit more. In terms of pleasure, yeah it purely comes down to having to relax. It's a long process, for me I went from straight up vaginismus - I was flat out UNABLE to have sex due to pain - to now still feeling pain at the beginning but it goes away quickly. This process took me a year and a half. I'm only now beginning to really derive pleasure from penetrative sex and I am still to orgasm but I think I will soon.

What helped for me was lube, practicing with penetration on my own so with fingers and dildos/vibrators as suggested above, and generally just keeping going! It can be really frustrating but it's just a matter of doing it and doing it again and focusing on relaxation and then getting into it. Letting your partner know what's going on can help too, as they can be more careful with you and focus more on trying to make it enjoyable for you. As time has went on, I've learned more about what I like and how I like it so obviously that's led to me enjoying it more. Hope that helps, I know it's not much of an answer because it's basically "just keep going", but that's really all you can do! The wait will be worth it though.