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If you've masturbated numerous times before you actually have sex for the first time, will it hurt as much or...?
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barbiesparkle wrote:If you've masturbated numerous times before you actually have sex for the first time, will it hurt as much or...?
The only difference that masturbation would really make is if you were inserting large objects and your vagina was used to accommodating things larger than fingers and the like.

I say this because (and this is way TMI but whatevs lol) I had masturbated quite frequently for years before losing my virginity but it still hurt

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barbiesparkle wrote:If you've masturbated numerous times before you actually have sex for the first time, will it hurt as much or...?
depends what you mean by masturbate. some girls just play with their clit and don't actually finger themselves, but if by masturbation, you mean inserting fingers or objects into your vagina, then it may hurt less.
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barbiesparkle wrote:If you've masturbated numerous times before you actually have sex for the first time, will it hurt as much or...?
depends what you mean by masturbate. some girls just play with their clit and don't actually finger themselves, but if by masturbation, you mean inserting fingers or objects into your vagina, then it may hurt less.
If I didn't know that a lot of girls finger themselves, I would have made that up to be a myth lol I mean fingering myself does nothing for me. Like literally nothing. I've seen porn stars finger themselves and fake moan a lot, so I thought it's just something males enjoy seeing, but then I noticed girls talking about fingering themselves and enjoying it and I was quite surprised. I do see that you want sth inside there while you rub your clit or sth but just sticking fingers in without touching your clit? I don't get it.
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I FEEL SO PROUD RIGHT NOW. :love2:

Anyway, *personal experience* I have had vaginal orgasms many many times from fingering, mainly because when I was younger I found it difficult to make myself come from rubbing my clit (thankfully I've learned how to work with my body).

My first time still hurt though and I used to do it all the time so I think your first time would only hurt less if you used a dildo because your body would be used to accommodating something that size.

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So I'm going into escorting. Don't pretend you didn't see this coming, haha. It's the only option I have left (I won't bother going over my situation again as I've went on and on about it in other threads). Anyone ever done this before? Maybe not necessarily escorting but even just tips from one sex worker to another? I have been doing research for a while now and think I have the basics down but I am so scared about security and still have no idea if I should sign up to an agency or brave it alone. I don't like the thought of paying them 30% of my earnings if I have no way of knowing they're actually doing what I pay them for!

The pay is what I'm keeping my eye on. You all know I have no qualms about sex with strangers, my only issues are security and my sexual health. I'm so scared that I'll get some weirdo that will use the fact I'm new to his advantage and try to pressure me into bareback or something. I'm trying to find other escorts in my area that I can buddy up with and who can maybe help me out with security - like calling them when I get there and when I'm about to leave - but it seems there aren't as many in my city than in others.... I guess that's good for me, unless it means people just don't look for them that often.

About the first time/masturbation stuff - I'd deff say that using a dildo helps. I had never fingered myself or even used tampons and that certainly contributed to why my first time was hell. Awkwardly I haven't been penetrated much since, so I better get a dildo before I start this work. Oh and before anyone says, yes escorting is legal in the UK! I will be signing up as self-employed and paying taxes, although I don't have to do that till around six months in apparently.

Congrats everyone on thread 2! Love the title. :D

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Is it true that you can only have vaginal orgasm when you are older?!? I'm 21 and never had experienced that.. I've heard it better than clit orgasm and I really want to find how to have it :tu:
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HattieChaos wrote: Oh and before anyone says, yes escorting is legal in the UK! I will be signing up as self-employed and paying taxes, although I don't have to do that till around six months in apparently.
I lived for the series The Secret Diary Of A London Call Girl - hell did I want to be an escort --- good luck! will you get an escort name?

(I just got to this thread so I don't know about your history)

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Hahaha I love the name of this threat and the GIF at the start :D hattichoas, keep us updated on how it goes for you, and make sure to share any funny stories! I am intrigued by call girls and I want to live vicariously through you haha. Hopefully you find another escort to buddy up with and help keep you safe.

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*thread *hattiechaos. Sorry for the spelling errors/double post. Trying to post quickly on work break ever goes over well -__-

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HattieChaos wrote:So I'm going into escorting. Don't pretend you didn't see this coming, haha. It's the only option I have left (I won't bother going over my situation again as I've went on and on about it in other threads). Anyone ever done this before? Maybe not necessarily escorting but even just tips from one sex worker to another? I have been doing research for a while now and think I have the basics down but I am so scared about security and still have no idea if I should sign up to an agency or brave it alone. I don't like the thought of paying them 30% of my earnings if I have no way of knowing they're actually doing what I pay them for!

The pay is what I'm keeping my eye on. You all know I have no qualms about sex with strangers, my only issues are security and my sexual health. I'm so scared that I'll get some weirdo that will use the fact I'm new to his advantage and try to pressure me into bareback or something. I'm trying to find other escorts in my area that I can buddy up with and who can maybe help me out with security - like calling them when I get there and when I'm about to leave - but it seems there aren't as many in my city than in others.... I guess that's good for me, unless it means people just don't look for them that often.

About the first time/masturbation stuff - I'd deff say that using a dildo helps. I had never fingered myself or even used tampons and that certainly contributed to why my first time was hell. Awkwardly I haven't been penetrated much since, so I better get a dildo before I start this work. Oh and before anyone says, yes escorting is legal in the UK! I will be signing up as self-employed and paying taxes, although I don't have to do that till around six months in apparently.

Congrats everyone on thread 2! Love the title. :D
Have you ever thought of going into porn when you turn 18? I've wondered about it before. Seems pretty fun.

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HaateeU wrote:Is it true that you can only have vaginal orgasm when you are older?!? I'm 21 and never had experienced that.. I've heard it better than clit orgasm and I really want to find how to have it :tu:
Hell yeah you can! It happens when the vaginal wall is rubbed. What you need to do is the 'come hither' motion with your fingers, or you can use a toy or have your partner do it for a prolonged amount of time. I'm not great at explaining so I'll link you to a great blog. (great for pr0n too ;) )
VERY NSFW!
http://orgasmictipsforgirls.tumblr.com/
Click on the FAQ and you'll see. ;)
Apparently not all women can have vaginal orgasms though :(
Good luck anyways!

Also, does anyone else here squirt? I am a squirter. :?

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McQueen. wrote:If you use a dildo it helps imo. My first time didn't hurt at all but I had been using a dildo for about a year before having sex for the first time, so.
did you find the dildo hurt as well or were you able to do it in a way it didnt hurt at all? I'm assuming you have more control when you're doing it yourself rather than when the penis is attached to an idiot haha

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Arya wrote:I lived for the series The Secret Diary Of A London Call Girl - hell did I want to be an escort --- good luck! will you get an escort name?

(I just got to this thread so I don't know about your history)
Haha, I doubt it'll be as glam as that was! I will indeed come up with a new name, I'm going to avoid giving any real personal details as I intend to go into academia later on, that includes any face shots on my adverts etc. Better be safe than sorry there.
tinyblue wrote:Hahaha I love the name of this threat and the GIF at the start :D hattichoas, keep us updated on how it goes for you, and make sure to share any funny stories! I am intrigued by call girls and I want to live vicariously through you haha. Hopefully you find another escort to buddy up with and help keep you safe.
I promise I will!
lo_lo wrote:Oh love you're quite young to be an escort. Please be careful and safe try and hook up with some of the other working girls and get a feel of the company and ask them about their experiences, men that you should stay away from, tips & tricks etc

So often girls think they're signing up for one thing ) and it ends up going sour I've heard so many horror stories

Also, how does your boyfriend feel about all this? Its not my place to pry but I feel bad for the lad if he supports you financially as well as loves you and now has to deal with his girlfriend sleeping with people for money (not that there is any shame in that) it just seems like hes helped you out and supported you
That's what I meant when I said I'm doing my research, fingers crossed I find a decent agency. The SAAFE forum has also been massively helpful. I know I'm young, I certainly won't be the only 18 year old though. I suppose I can use age to my advantage.

My boyfriend can no longer support me, that's why I have to go into this field. He is indeed worried, but more for my safety than for the fact I'm sleeping with others. I've had a long talk with him about how he feels about the sexual aspect and he couldn't care less as long as I'm safe, because he knows this is the last resort and we have reached it now. He's trying his hardest to get a job that would mean I don't have to work as many hours, (or maybe not at all) but we don't know when that will happen. He has supported me and I am of course massively grateful, but that doesn't mean I'm going to willingly go homeless just on the off chance this hurts our relationship. The relationship is important to me, but my life and shelter and food come first. No point being in a happy, totally monogamous relationship if I'm overseas anyway and living on the streets, haha. It's a choice not many people have to make. He understands this, and I am confident that he is telling the truth when he says he's okay with this, or at least as okay as either of us can be under the circumstances. Anyway, this was pretty much a last resort and my financial situation (and EU immigrant status) has led me here. Maybe some miracle will come along and he can afford to support me, and I could get a normal part-time job to help supplement me a bit more. It could happen, but definitely not any time soon, so at least temporarily I'm going to have to do this.
ravioliiii wrote:Have you ever thought of going into porn when you turn 18? I've wondered about it before. Seems pretty fun.
My Youth Support Worker actually knows a girl that does porn and may be able to get the contact for me. I agree that it does seem fun but when it comes to porn, you have no choice but to show your face online and that could catch up with me in my psychologist years. Probably not the best route to go down, haha.

Before anyone asks, cos I feel it's coming, yes I could get a "normal" job but not before the beginning of September when I move back to my city to start school, and definitely not enough to pay for my Citizenship + support me for a year while attending school. It's a long story that I've blabbed on about before but I have truly, truly exhausted all other options, even homeless shelters who turned me away because I'm an immigrant and can't claim benefits. This is really it, guys.

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^ You could be a cam girl possibly though, I know a lot of them wear masks during (so your identity wouldn't be an issue) and it could bring in a little more $!

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Anyone have tips for if one of you is a virgin and one isn't? I've only had sex with 3 guys but none of them were virgins and I'd say I'm quite experienced I guess...

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bubbledre4m wrote:Anyone have tips for if one of you is a virgin and one isn't? I've only had sex with 3 guys but none of them were virgins and I'd say I'm quite experienced I guess...
If this is advice for you with a guy who is a virgin I'd say the most important thing is to try and make sure he isn't too nervous and doesn't feel too much pressure to do well. I know a lot of guys are very sensitive when it comes to how they perform during sex and the fact that you are experienced is probably kind of intimidating for him. (This doesn't apply to every guy though!)

Talking is also important. Me and my boyfriend were both virgins when we first had sex so it's a little different but I told him what/where felt good as we went along so he got the hang of things much faster than if i'd just let him figure it out for himself. It can be a bit of a mood killer but he'll probably appreciate you telling him what he could do rather than him just going in with no clue what he's doing. And if you wanted you could always just change to a position where you're the one in control, which would probably be better for both of you.

I'd also say try not to get frustrated if it doesn't feel too great for you or if he cums really quickly. Again this obviously doesn't apply for every guy but most girls I know that have had sex when the guy was a virgin said he came really fast. Taking it slow should help him last a bit longer. Honestly, it might not be that great for you the first time you do it but if you just use your experience to teach him he should learn in no time.

I feel like all that sounded really cheesey haha

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(Gonna cut some quotes short so this post doesn't end up the size of the dissertation I'm supposed to be writing)
bubblegumbitch wrote:^ You could be a cam girl possibly though, I know a lot of them wear masks during (so your identity wouldn't be an issue) and it could bring in a little more $!
I have been considering this too for the looongest time, I don't feel my webcam is good enough and honestly it seems like the money comes easier in escorting, haha. I've heard of girls camming for like 7 hours and only getting £50 at the end, to think I could make that in half an hour... I might be too optimistic though. I would definitely consider it.
lo_lo wrote:Hattie be careful though, don't rely on escorting to be your source of income
Really all I want is enough to live, I'd charge maybe £100 an hour which from what I've seen is absolutely the average. Other girls - same age - in my area seem to charge £150/160 so they're getting a good deal it seems, haha. I've actually heard different, that (at least on the site I'm signing up for) newbies are very popular and you stop getting as much interest when your "newbie flair" wears off. I guess we shall see. My boyfriend has enough money to pay for September so I have one month to get some kind of steady income going, and to see if this is really a viable option. To live, I need £100 a week - that's £70 for rent and £30 for food and whatnot. If I make that in one hour, I'm laughing because surely I can find at least one client a week? God, here's hoping. :P

I'm scared too. I've figured out the way I'm going to go about security and letting someone know where I am etc., and I think for the most part it would be a matter of being firm - I know what I will do and what I don't and that will be made very clear in my profile. I think 5+ and 10+ is a bit optimistic though - the day I get a 23 year old is the day I revel in my joy! :P I hear the average is middle aged men, I mean it makes sense because which 23 year old can afford to pay a girl upwards of £100 an hour? I've made my peace with the fact I'm going to be seeing a lot of saggy penises, I'll just think of it as research for my future career in sexology. :D I know what you mean about the economy, for me it's moreso that I'm a student and an immigrant which just worsens the situation really.
McQueen. wrote:Also, another option is becoming a sugarbaby...
The sugarbaby option is deff another route I'm thinking of, if I have the time and/or this doesn't work out. Reason I'm going with this first is because the process is faster whereas with SB I need to take time out of my studying and volunteering etc. to chat to these guys and build up a relationship, haha. The money is great though. Honestly, I don't think my city is actually good for it though as it's not really where those kind of rich people live, but if I could find a guy willing to pay my way to meet him, I'd be in heaven. :P

bubbledre4m: I would have given my two cents but canachi said everything perfectly! I'd say that if he isn't a guy that might feel sensitive about you being experienced, he's probably the opposite and actually gets turned on by it. I think to some extent we all get paranoid if we're virgins and they're not - regardless of gender - but there's something to be said for being shown the ropes. ;) Or maybe that's just because I really like authority in the bedroom.

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I already posted this in "things that annoy you on tumblr", but is anyone here into BDSM and has anyone else seen this post

I've never practiced BDSM or anything, but it still pisses me off.
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