I’m frustrated for her because I’ve been there myself. We all have our battles and it isn’t as easy as just getting up and fix everything. Cassie is the worst for sticking her head up her arse and her incurable, stubborn attitude is harming her, no end. Defence and defiance go hand in hand, but I feel she’s always been like this. Aside from constantly saying the wrong thing and mishandling situations, it’s her worst trait.
Her mum and enabling super-fans are not helping her, but if she’s low, she will grab onto the support that suits her best and I don’t blame her for that. When you’re at odds with yourself, it doesn’t help when you’re getting what appears to be shit from all sides. There comes a point where you have to take constructive criticism and if she reads here, i can see how this would come off as trashing without conscience. I think most people here would be happy to see the change in her. So much of what I’ve seen here is genuine advice, but many of us have experienced the backlash when trying to genuinely offer her help directly.
I totally agree that a dermatologist is a great start and it’s so badly needed for the channel, at least and also for her confidence. It isn’t just the picking, but her skin is so flaky and dry in places, it would really benefit from a mild daily exfoliant. Something like Liz Earle’s cleanse and polish would be great, but I don’t know if it’s available in the US. Either a glycolic acid or a hot cloth cleanser would be great for her. Addressing mental health more, maybe looking into solutions for her thinning hair, such as hair pieces, talking to/interviewing other youtubers, outside of the beauty community.
There are times when I really do come here to vent, because she refuses to make a change for the better and the more defensive she is, the more people will cheer on her downfall. It frustrates the fuck out of me. It’s a vicious cycle that only she can break. A victim mentality is all great in the moment but when you do it every day, refusing to change and make healthy choices, you’ll look back and realise that the soft, cosy bed of denial and allowing yourself to be coddled, make you no more capable than an infant. I worry about her ability to sustain the channel at this point, so it’s time to face up to her problems, break down her issues one by one and bravely face them. THAT’S relatable, helpful and will propel her into better things.
I’m not going to say I don’t think she’ll do it and isn’t capable of it. I’ll say I HOPE she sees this and she does it. I believe she can. Tough love and strong advice isn’t hate, it’s concern. We all face shit in life, it’s not exclusive to Cassie.
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