Why is the idea repulsive if queerness is not repulsive?nadi wrote:I'm not attracted to women, I feel a mild repulsion to the idea of me sleeping with a woman. I'm not thinking "OH MY GOD FUCKING DISGUSTING", it's just an "ew" feeling. It's not homophobic, I'm not saying it's bad to be gay. Go ask most straight men how they feel about being physically intimate with another man and they'll say the same if they're being honest. Again, doesn't mean you're homophobic.
Yeah, many straight men would say that because a LOT of straight men have unconscious anti-queer biases. Such is the culture in which we live.
Pretty much all of us have some of those ugly biases tucked away inside us. That’s life. But if you’re gonna fly your “look at me I’m so woke” flag and expect to get ally-points when it suits you, it’s worth examining these knee-jerk reactions when they come up.
And yes, comparisons are odious, but let not pretend that writing and sex need to be the EXACT same thing for the point to be valid. Handedness is, by and large, an inborn trait. It is something you gravitate to without logical persuasion. It is a preference based on what “feels” correct to YOU in your own mind and body. Left-handedness is also something that was historically considered wrong/evil/heretical/sinful and that children were “trained out of” with corporal punishment. There was a time that people WERE culturally conditioned to be, essentially, repulsed by the idea of left-handedness. The fact that you don’t consider your response to gay sex comparable is because you weren’t raised in a culture that taught you to feel that way about left-handedness.
