No need to apologize..I didn't think you were saying otherwise. I was just adding my opinion on.HattieChaos wrote:
I agree about the blame, I meant the people that act on it - sorry. It's a very slippery slope, because so many of them believe that as long as the child consents as well, then it's okay, when that isn't how it works at all. But yeah, I'm pretty sure paedophilia is classed as a sickness by most medical professionals, I just don't know how one would go about treating it.
I think I only realised how common sexual abuse was when it actually happened to me, but I didn't really recognise that when my Mother's boyfriends used to feel me up and make me feel uncomfortable that that was sexual abuse. I think I honestly thought that was normal until a certain time. But after I begun talking about it with people, I realised just how common it is. My best friend reckons that rape/abuse and all that sort of thing happens more often in "lower class" places because the people tend to be more uncivilised.. I'm not sure how true that is, but I live in an area with mostly poor/on benefits or at least working class people and I think I can honestly say that here, if you are a girl and you weren't abused in some way as a child, you are probably in the minority. Obviously a rapist doesn't go around looking for the poorest victims, but I think the area thing might be onto something. I mean, crime rates etc. go up in slums and poor places, so accounts of sexual abuse obviously have to be a part of that figure. I think if I was to have kids, it'd only be after I was as financially good as I could get and living in a really really well off area. I think there's a sort of safety in money. Richer people treat it as a shock when something happens to them, but for certain areas on the opposite end of the money spectrum - this sort of stuff is the norm, almost expected.
I'm really sorry that that happened to you. I think you're probably onto something about it being more prevalent where there's higher crime rates. Nothing ever happened to me, but sometimes I have dreams that it did, though I'm 99% certain it didn't.
