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EDucating Shanny

Re: EDucating Shanny

Postby SnerdBlossom » Tue May 30, 2017 6:12 pm

Here are some tidbits about this woman/child: She is 32 or 33 years old, acts 12, looks and dresses like she's in middle school, cannot stand her husband...she seems repulsed by him, just watch her body language around him. They do not have sex. He is her whipping boy. She is very coddled and enabled by him, who is a jerk btw. She is enabled by her army of family members (Mormons). Calls her mom "mommy" still. She is being dishonest with herself regarding her unhappy union with her husband. I had a husband to whom I acted the same way, because I became totally unattracted to him after a while. So I know a woman's words and looks and body language when you are truly turned off. There is so much more to say about this channel. Thanks for starting a long overdue thread.
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Re: EDucating Shanny

Postby SnerdBlossom » Wed Jun 07, 2017 4:43 pm

It is so weird that she has not been profrssionally helped in so many years. Weirder that her family has enabled her so much, keeping her child-like. Too bad she doesn't have a husband who would insist she get therapy, or he's done. She knows lapdog Danny will never leave...more weirdness right there. No sex, she hates sex and body parts, etc....and he just nods his head. :roll:
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Re: EDucating Shanny

Postby misspeak » Wed Jun 07, 2017 4:49 pm

Wouldyourather wrote:So, I have to make this thread. I know Shanny (her youtube channel is called EDucating Shanny) has a lot of mental problems. But OH MY GOD, shes attention seeking! And is she a compulsive liar? As in the video, "how she died," she says that their bird was their child because they can not get real children. But they do not know if they can have children !! It's just a risk that exists when you have eating disorder. But it may also be that they can easily get children without problems. It will be completely the same to say "I have cancer". Because cancer is a risk when I'm smoking, but I do not know if I get it. And shanny does not know if she can have children so why does she play the feel-sorry-for-me-violin and directly says "we cant have kids"! Oh well I rambled a lot about this LOL


I mean, her doctors have said that the chance of them having children is slim to none. She had a miscarriage and the doctors said her carrying a baby to term is unlikely because her body is so damaged.
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Re: EDucating Shanny

Postby kally33 » Sun Jul 30, 2017 5:54 pm

Oh my gosh. So happy to find this thread, even if it's inactive. As someone who is asexual, has struggled with eating disorders, grew up religious, etc, I had a lot of sympathy for Shanny despite the things people are addressing here. Granted these were things I struggled with in my early 20s and not at 30-something! But still.

Now I'm just fucking done. It makes me angry that she has rather purposefully amassed this following of very young girls to whom she is an AWFUL role model. She refuses to get professional help, continues to showcase disordered behaviors as if they were normal, claims B/Ping multiple times a week is a normal part of recovery (sure, for some it might be, but you get additional professional help ASAP!!!). Super fucking crazy. The last straw for me was her recent "meet-up." It was being filmed by a friend, and she was legit five times the size she is in her other videos. Why is she hiding her body and using angles to make herself look skinnier, then claiming she's well into recovery?! What kind of message does that send?! I also think to be that big (probably BMI ~31-32), she must still be struggling a lot with binging even if she "only" purges once in a while...I wish she would get actual help :(.

I also wish that instead of surrounding herself with these teenagers who idolize her, she could look up to someone with a healthy recovery channel like Mia Findlay of "What Mia Did Next." She is 28 or 29, but from how they act, you would think Shanny is 15 and Mia is 35. But alas, Shanny thrives off of her "crisis" videos and being able to take a break "for her health" whenever she wants and would never put the kind of thought and research into videos that Mia does. Not sure she is even educated enough to do so :/. Sounds like she married right out of high school and never even really had a serious career, let alone a college education.
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Re: EDucating Shanny

Postby MarlboroPrincess » Wed Oct 11, 2017 9:53 am

I need a quick rant about Shanny.

At first I really enjoyed her, she seemed to be honestly trying to figure out how to recover. She seems a bit childish, but it wasn't too bad.

Now here we are in October 2017, and I am done. 4 hour streams about shitting whining being enabled by teens. You can't post anything other than some extreme ass kissing comment without having these minions shit themselves over it and some literally police every comment section for every video. And Shanny loves it, she soaks it all in and couldn't give a shit less that she's driving away her fans that are her age and who will likely be way more helpful and honest if she wants advice for her recovery in lieu of preteen and teens who are insane, and who wants tips and tricks on how to be the most special sick snowflake. I really am wondering if most of her illness isn't mind driven? *NOT DIAGNOSING*

What a shit show. Literally. :rofl: :| :roll: :FU:
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Re: EDucating Shanny

Postby abbycakes » Fri Oct 13, 2017 2:23 pm

MarlboroPrincess wrote:I need a quick rant about Shanny.

At first I really enjoyed her, she seemed to be honestly trying to figure out how to recover. She seems a bit childish, but it wasn't too bad.

Now here we are in October 2017, and I am done. 4 hour streams about shitting whining being enabled by teens. You can't post anything other than some extreme ass kissing comment without having these minions shit themselves over it and some literally police every comment section for every video. And Shanny loves it, she soaks it all in and couldn't give a shit less that she's driving away her fans that are her age and who will likely be way more helpful and honest if she wants advice for her recovery in lieu of preteen and teens who are insane, and who wants tips and tricks on how to be the most special sick snowflake. I really am wondering if most of her illness isn't mind driven? *NOT DIAGNOSING*

What a shit show. Literally. :rofl: :| :roll: :FU:


I think I found her channel in January of this year and have been watching ever since. I honestly don't know what to think. When I found her channel I thought she was very adorable and seemed committed to recovery and was very honest. Some of the negative comments have kind of influenced my opinion of her though now and I think some of what they say may be true. I don't "hate" on her for being so immature for her age because I can relate to a certain extent, but I think her husband and family has enabled her A LOT. I remember in one video her saying that she doesn't even know how to pay bills, and its hard to believe she is for real. She can figure out how to make youtube videos and get to 60,000+ subscribers, but you can't pay a bill online? But the real issue I see is that she has a lot of followers who are young girls. I'm glad she finally went to a psychiatrist recently to get diagnosed, but I've yet to see her do much else to help herself since then. But she has been on youtube now for over 2 years, and she needs to be fully committed to recovery by being in treatment since she has not stopped bingeing and purging, otherwise I think she's setting a poor example and I fear the influence she has on her young audience.

One other thing, I think she needs to let go of that "shanny fanny" thing. I didn't think much of it at first, but I think I've grown to dislike the idea of having "fans". She's not a celebrity, she's just a regular woman who makes videos about her life. Calling your viewers your fans can really get to your head and it just puts a bad taste in my mouth. Anyone else have any thoughts on her calling her viewers "shanny fannys"?
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Re: EDucating Shanny

Postby abbycakes » Fri Oct 13, 2017 4:18 pm

Wouldyourather wrote:The past six months shes claimed that she has recovered or almost recovered from an ED. But she binges and purges AT LEAST one time every month!! And she claims that her youtube channel hashelped her recover. She hasnt had professional help in 15 years. If she has recovered on her own she can get a place i Guinnes record books because shes the first that EVER recovered without professional help. But she obviously didnt recover its only in her head!! She had som traumas while she was a kid, I believe she was sexually molested and thats why shes mentaly stuck at that age (around 10 years old). She told that she felt like she had to live with her mom (they lived in moms basement the past 7 years) because she couldnt take care of herself. (Shows shes mentaly 10 years old) Lately she claimed they hadto move out becausea family member needed a place to stay for a couple of months. And just as clockwerk, 1 week after they moved out she made a video how scared she is because shes suicidal now, has bad anxiety, binge and purge etc. I find it very hard to believe that her mom kicked them out. Im sure she moved out because she knew she would get sick and can get a lot of attention on that.
About her husbond. One day she filmed him coming home after working out of town for a week. It was a 2 minute video of them hugging, nothing else. Who films that and put it on the internet? It was obviously because she thrive of the comments "couple goals" and the attention and because she feels she has to proove something.
They dont have sex, they dont even sleep in the same room (shows shes mentally 10 years old). But she claims the do "other trhings". But in a video talking about sex, she told that she find those areas on the body, both men and women, very disgusting and she did not like sex at all!! So what is "other things" to her? Hugs and kisses? Im sure Danny, her husband, isnt satisfied with that!! I have a feeling hes gay. And their religion (mormon) despises homosexuality so that makes sense he is married to a "10 year old" girl, because he doesnt have to have sex with her and act like husbands in hetrosexual relationsships does ...


I don't think it has been 15 years, I think she said she last saw a therapist a few years ago and she stopped going because they couldn't afford it. I do think she needs to be in therapy, especially if she is going to be making videos that a lot of young people watch. She just got diagnosed with BPD, although she doesn't seem like she has BPD, I hope she does DBT because I think it could help her.

I always thought it seemed like her and Danny truly love each other. I never thought she was repulsed by him. But I think they have a codependent relationship. She has even admitted that she has manipulated Danny in the past into buying food for her so she can binge. They have been married for over 10 years now though and it seems amazing that he has been so supportive of her all this time and continues to be, but I don't think he has good boundaries and he enables her not just to keep B/P but to stay in this childlike, overly dependent state. I get that it has to be very difficult to like sex if you have a lot of sexual trauma. And they have different sleep schedules, so they don't sleep in the same room. But those are both things that could be worked on. There are so many different types of therapy that she could try to help with healing her trauma. And she could try to get on a normal sleep schedule, but she doesn't have to, so she doesn't seem to try doing much that could help her.
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Re: EDucating Shanny

Postby kally33 » Wed Nov 01, 2017 7:09 pm

I agree that it does seem like they love each other, but the love seems 100% platonic. The last straw for me was when she explained how they have what she called "hotdog" sex by him sliding his dick between her labia without putting it in...she seemed so fucking grossed out by it herself...can you imagine telling the internet about something that private if you had any real sexual feelings for someone?! I understand and do agree that this may all be because she was a victim of sexual abuse, but boy oh boy does the situation between them seem pretty unresolvable.
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Re: EDucating Shanny

Postby abbycakes » Fri Nov 03, 2017 3:00 pm

kally33 wrote:I agree that it does seem like they love each other, but the love seems 100% platonic. The last straw for me was when she explained how they have what she called "hotdog" sex by him sliding his dick between her labia without putting it in...she seemed so fucking grossed out by it herself...can you imagine telling the internet about something that private if you had any real sexual feelings for someone?! I understand and do agree that this may all be because she was a victim of sexual abuse, but boy oh boy does the situation between them seem pretty unresolvable.


Maybe you're right about it being platonic, at least on her side of it. I always thought they were cute and even kind of envied her for having him stick by her all this time, but like I said before, I don't think its that healthy anymore because of all of the enabling that has gone on for so long. I think if the situation is unresolvable like you said, it is because of the enabling.

I can't believe some of the stuff that she shares/has shared in some of her videos about her life. I mean, it doesn't actually surprise me, it doesn't take much to do that, but I can't imagine how anyone is comfortable sharing all of that in a video that anyone could watch.

I also think that she only gets away with acting so young in front of her audience because she looks so young. I didn't think much of it at first, but now when she does it, it does kind of make me cringe when she talks in a baby or a kiddie voice. Talking in a baby voice just starts to get weird at a certain age.
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Re: EDucating Shanny

Postby moonlightprincess » Thu Nov 09, 2017 1:23 pm

I try to avoid judging a situation I'm not in, but yeah, I think she needs inpatient or at least intensive outpatient treatment, and for some of the people in her life to get more real with her. If people had not enabled this behavior she might still have her teeth. :/ I think she seems well-meaning and sweet, but no, it is not normal to still b/p that much in recovery especially if you're not in treatment. Obviously she is IN recovery and not recovered, and she doesn't glamorize her illness. But she has admitted herself to not wanting to get better, possibly because her bulimia makes it so others have to take care of her and she can stay child-like. I don't mean to sound harsh, this is just an incredibly common feature of ED that I have suffered with as well. I hope she gets intensive therapy and treatment.
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Re: EDucating Shanny

Postby treelee » Wed Nov 15, 2017 5:28 pm

I haven't watched her in A LONG time. I got fed up when she got to a decent number of subscribers and views and wasn't monetizing her channel. She didn't even want to look into it. Meanwhile she claims she doesn't have the money for therapy. If she took her YT money she could probably afford therapy. It just seemed really stupid and obvious and like she wanted any excuse to not seek ACTUAL help. I get YT was the first step, but it's just that. It won't get you all the way there.
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